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Tuesday, April 4, 2017

What's The Truth About The Gender Pay Gap?

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Search “Gender Wage Gap,” and the suggestion that Google’s algorithm immediately spits out is “Gender Wage Gap Myth.” Meaning that a considerable number of people seeking information about the gender wage gap are skeptical about its very existence. Realizing that many intelligent, knowledgeable Americans still question whether women and men in America are genuinely compensated differently for doing the same work, I propose that the best way we can observe Equal Pay Day in 2017 is to use whatever data is available to us to help bring the truth about the gender wage gap to light.


First, a little background: In 1996, an NGO called the National Committee on Pay Equity (NCPE) established Equal Pay Day, a public awareness event to illustrate the difference between men’s and women’s wages in America. Equal Pay Day is predicated on data collected by the U.S. Census Bureau that shows that women in American make only approximately $.80 for every $1.00 men earn. And so this year, Tuesday, April 4 is Equal Pay Day, or the day in 2017 until which women on average would to work to earn as men earn on average in the US.


While the “$.80 on the dollar” construct is thrown around frequently, it is usually intended to be illustrative rather than precise. Most participants in the wage gap debate concede that in practice, few women receive 20 percent less compensation for doing the exact same work as men under identical circumstances. Much of the deficit in women’s earnings can be explained by factors including choice of career, education, time off to raise children, performance, and work experience. (Although all those factors may be caused by systemic discrimination, but let’s put that aside for now.)


The gender wage gap ― and wage discrimination in general ― is perpetuated by pervasive opacity about what workers are paid, and the ongoing practice in Corporate America to pay based on the individual rather than on the job. Since wide discrepancies persist among people with identical job titles, it remains hard to pin down whether women really earn less for doing exactly the same work as men under exactly the same circumstances.


Still, I can tell you from my own time in Corporate America, as well from dozens of women I’ve interviewed and employee reviews we’ve received on Fairygodboss, the pay gap feels very real and persistent. And frustratingly hidden. This practice of keeping compensation information secret has meant that Corporate America lacks the telltale evidence that has surfaced in sports with the example U.S. Women’s Soccer Team or in Hollywood.


So this Equal Pay Day, let’s take a few minutes to stop wondering and start revealing data that can put an end to the debate and instead start moving toward the solution. Here are some suggestions:


1. Talk about your salary


In my workplace experiences, there was usually a tacit - or even explicit - understanding that talking about your salary was not acceptable. It was not until recently that I learned that it’s explicitly illegal in this country to discourage workers from discussing their salary according to the National Labor Relations Act of 1935.


The Institute for Women’s Policy Research found that over 60 percent of workers in the private sector felt that discussion of their salary was strongly discouraged or could lead to punishment.


So on this Equal Pay Day, I propose that everyone should just start revealing their salary. Find a peer of the opposite sex and tell them how much you make. Compare notes. You could even take it up a level as Software Engineer Erika Baker famously did at Google when she and coworkers created a shared spreadsheet listing out several salaries in an experiment on radical transparency.


If you’re feeling less brazen, there are also many opportunities now to reveal your salary in an anonymous way. Fairygodboss crowdsources anonymous salaries by gender, and other sites PayScale and Glassdoor collect salary data information as well.


2. Managers, get out your spreadsheets


Corporate managers are generally provided with a simple spreadsheet that summarizes compensation information for the employees on their team. So this Equal Pay Day, all managers could do something simple to reveal the truth about gender inequality: break out your calculator. Do some analysis. Partner with other managers in your company to increase the sample size. Do women on your team or at your company seem to be paid less in a systematic way?


This exercise is never neat and clean because there are asterisks and exceptions on everyone’s career path, and often implicit bias on part of the analyzer, but it can be done. In September 2015, Salesforce showed the world that it was possible by voluntarily undertaking a company-wide compensation audit to in response to concerns raised by key employees that a gender wage gap existed.


If and when inequity is identified, it’s incumbent on managers to 1) raise it to their management ― just as it would be if they witnessed illegal activity or workplace harassment ― 2) and also inform the employee. At minimum, underpaid employees should be empowered with information about their situation so they can make a case for a raise or seek employment elsewhere.


3. Women, Ask For A Raise


One of the theories that abounds about what causes the pay gap is that women are less aggressive about asking for raises, or prioritize health benefits, flexibility or other non-monetary compensation above salary.


So what better day than Equal Pay Day to take that argument off the table with women asking for raises in a massive coordinated effort. It seems especially fitting in 2017 ― when women are engaged in greater activism than at any time in the past 40 years ― that the most pro-woman stance they can take is to get more aggressive about enforcing equal pay at work.


This Equal Pay Day, Faiygodboss is excited to announce a new partnership with Payscale. Now, you’ll be able to use a Payscale calculator on Fairygodboss to estimate what you should be making ― and see how you stack up.


If women can be better armed with information about where their compensation stacks up, it’s likely they’d feel more empowered to advocate for their fair due. We could all stop debating about whether women are paid fairly and move on to other issues. Like whether women are promoted fairly. Happy Equal Pay Day.

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April 04, 2017 at 03:23AM

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from Romy Newman

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A Painter Searches For A More Interconnected Vision Of Humanity

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In Laura Berger’s inviting paintings and ceramics, everything extraneous has been stripped away. Almost featureless nude figures cavort or repose in geometrically iterated positions, set against flattened beige backgrounds. The world, in these scenes, appears harmonious and placid: Mankind at peace. 


“I’m interested in our search for a sense of belonging and meaning as individuals, and how that both contrasts and combines with our existential concerns of feeling small or insignificant in the larger world,” Berger told The Huffington Post in an email. She wants to capture “the ideas of inclusion and interconnectedness” in these works. 


To evoke the profound underlying unity of the human race, she portrays the figures with pin-prick eyes and mouths, generic hairstyles and no secondary sex characteristics, á la Ken. (Barbie is different, thanks to the bosom.) “I’m ... trying to distill the environments and figures down to very minimal clean shapes as a way to really focus on emotion or story, color and composition,” she told HuffPost.



The earthy, warm colors of Berger’s paintings play into her peaceful aesthetic and the rosy browns of her scenes look visually reminiscent of ancient Greek pottery paintings ― which she cites as an influence. “I’m really fascinated by ancient art that looks like it could have been made in contemporary time ― things like Japanese prints, Nayarit sculpture, Native American textiles and ledger drawings, Indonesian paintings, the modern illustrative style on Grecian vessels,” she explained. “But I’m equally interested in really abstract, graphic work. I love the large, clean shapes in paintings by Carmen Herrera, for instance, or the loose free-flowing forms and color fields in Helen Frankenthaler’s work.”


The confluence of ancient and contemporary aesthetics infuses her paintings with a timelessness, a visual representation of humanity that seems suspended in amber. “When you take away everything that the world puts upon us, we are all just these beings that are so similar and so connected to each other and to our collective global history,” she said.



The patterns of human figures and clean backgrounds have a geometric balance that juxtaposes with the soft bodily curves and muted palette Berger depicts. “I guess it’s sort of how life is, so that’s interesting to me,” she said. Depending on how you look at it, the human condition is either squishy and random or guided by primordial patterns ― or maybe it’s both.


In her paintings, humanity isn’t divided by gender, color or class; they move as one. There’s a deeper pattern beneath the seemingly fragmented and squishy categories of people. On a cosmic level, the paintings seem to say that we have more in common than we have dividing us. ”Much of my focus has been around exploring alternate notions of ‘family’ and connection ― through our ties to the global community and to our collective ancestry, to nature and to the unknown,” Berger added. Her works soothe, suggesting a likely impossible vision of global cooperation and mutual respect. 


In the real world, we do wear clothes that mark our socioeconomic statuses; we have sex organs and we engage in vicious partisan battles instead of collaborating peacefully to build a society together. In looking at Berger’s wistful paintings, we can imagine a better way.


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April 04, 2017 at 02:22AM

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from Claire Fallon

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Fox News And Bill O'Reilly Are Out Of Excuses

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These women didn’t call human resources.


That’s partly how conservative commentator Bill O’Reilly and Fox News are defending themselves against former employees and contributors whose sexual harassment allegations were detailed in a bombshell New York Times cover story over the weekend.


In separate statements, the network and O’Reilly said the accusers never called Fox’s internal hotline, an 800 number employers can use to lodge concerns anonymously.


This isn’t much of a defense.


For starters, at least one of the harassment complaints the Times wrote about was settled before 2004, the year Fox told The Huffington Post that it launched its hotline.


And a lawyer for another accuser told a roomful of reporters on Monday that her client, Fox on-air guest Wendy Walsh, didn’t know about the hotline and wouldn’t have called it because she wasn’t a full-time employee or even a paid contributor. (Fox says it makes its hotline known to both categories of worker.)


The weak hotline excuse is a glaring sign that despite a much-publicized internal investigation into sexual harassment that eventually led to Ailes’ departure, the culture at Fox News hasn’t changed when it comes to women, sexism and harassment.


Here are the relevant parts of O’Reilly and Fox’s responses to claims that O’Reilly inappropriately propositioned women and then retaliated against them when they turned him down:


“Notwithstanding the fact that no current or former Fox News employee ever took advantage of the 21st Century Fox hotline to raise a concern about Bill O’Reilly, even anonymously,” the company said, noting that it had looked into the accusations and that O’Reilly had denied them on their merits and “resolved” them.


For his part, O’Reilly said the lawsuits are the inevitable result of his fame and controversial persona, adding: “In my more than 20 years at Fox News Channel, no one has ever filed a complaint about me with the Human Resources Department, even on the anonymous hotline.”


Fox and O’Reilly have a widely publicized history of aggressively targeting women who make sexual discrimination claims. That’s almost certainly created a culture of fear and intimidation that would keep women from reporting concerns internally. If the company had fully reckoned with that history, it would have never used this weak hotline excuse.


Fox News didn’t respond to questions about whether it expected non-employees to know about the phone number or why the hotline was mentioned in its statements.



“We are not living in the Stone Age of the Mad Men era,” said attorney Lisa Bloom, calling out Fox’s culture at a press conference on Monday alongside her client. Walsh, a former “O’Reilly Factor” guest, alleges the host reneged on promise to make her a contributor after she declined his sexual advances.


Walsh is not suing Fox News, but Bloom said she would cooperate in any independent investigations.


Bloom urged federal and state investigators to launch an independent probe of the news organization, which she said is still rife with problems even after Ailes left last summer once multiple accusations of sexual misconduct came to light.


According to Bloom’s count, at least 30 women have come forward with sexual harassment and discrimination claims against Ailes, O’Reilly or others at Fox. She hinted that more women are out there who are keeping quiet.


Fox News’ parent, 21st Century Fox, hired the law firm Paul, Weiss last summer to investigate the accusations against Ailes. But Bloom says the firm’s work wasn’t truly independent since it was paid by the company. The firm served as “advocates for Fox News,” she said.


Companies often handle sexual harassment claims by bringing in an outside law firm. Ride-hailing giant Uber recently hired former attorney general Eric Holder and his Washington firm to look into a former engineer’s claim that the company’s human resources department had repeatedly ignored her sexual harassment complaints.


These investigations tend to be narrowly focused, lawyers say. So if the firm was looking at Ailes’ behavior, it wouldn’t have delved into O’Reilly’s, for example.



Bloom said she believed that at least a few of the women who’ve accused O’Reilly or Ailes of sexual harassment actually did reach out to Fox’s human resources department.


But even if none of them did, it is perfectly reasonable for a woman to sidestep the human resources department if she doesn’t trust her company to properly handle a complaint ― for example, if another woman had come forward in the past and the company had fired or retaliated against her.


That’s what happened to O’Reilly accuser Andrea Mackris, a producer on his show who sued the Fox host for discrimination in 2004.


Mackris claimed that O’Reilly had called her to talk about his sexual fantasies. She said she heard him masturbating while they were on the phone. But even before Mackris filed her claims, she was hit with a pre-emptive suit by Fox and O’Reilly, who claimed she was trying to blackmail them. O’Reilly spoke about the suit on the air, calling it “the single most evil thing I have ever experienced.”


The whole incident “served as a stark warning of what could happen to women if they came forward with complaints,” the Times’ Emily Steel and Michael Schmidt wrote of the settlements O’Reilly and Fox paid to female accusers over the years.


At the time, Fox News was run by Ailes, a notoriously paranoid, secretive and vengeful boss with his own reputation as a sexual harasser. Of course women weren’t running to call the HR department to lodge their concerns.


Fox isn’t the only company to offer employees a hotline for reporting concerns they aren’t comfortable taking to a direct supervisor. Under federal law, public companies must provide those numbers to employees.


But the hotline just isn’t going to work if employees don’t trust their employer, Stan Greenberg, a leadership consultant, told HuffPost.


Fox News has paid out millions of dollars because of O’Reilly ― and yet, he’s still there, Greenberg noted. “What does that tell employees about how committed the [company] is for providing a safe workplace? It sends a signal that [his behavior] is OK.”


The toll-free phone number for Fox employees is listed in the company’s “Standards of Business Conduct,” a 58-page document all full-time employees receive and must certify that they’ve read. The company says that if employees have concerns ― which would presumably include a boss hitting on you ― they can take it up with human resources, or an in-house lawyer, or they can call the phone number or they can even take their issues all the way to the company board of directors.


Rules like these are critical for companies that want to address complaints before they reach the courtroom, says Dan Omeara, a partner at Montgomery McCracken who handles these kinds of cases for employers. “If you don’t follow procedure, the court might throw out the suit.”


But in the case of Fox News, all bets are off on what’s typical.  

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April 04, 2017 at 02:22AM

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from Emily Peck

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Two Pups Took Engagement Pics And The Cuteness Is Off The Charts

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Spring is here and puppy love is in the air for this canine couple.



In March, Luna, a Pomeranian, and Sebastian, a French bulldog, of the Instagram account @SebastianLovesLuna, posed for some paws-itively precious engagement pics around Washington D.C.



Sebastian and Luna’s owner, Emily Abril, who used to be a portrait photographer, got behind the lens for the shoot. 


“I’ve always described them as an old married couple,” Abril told The Huffington Post. “One minute they are licking each other’s faces, the next minute they are barking and chasing after each other and then they’re napping.”



But it wasn’t love at first sight for the pup pair. 


“Luna came a month prior and ruled the house,” Abril said. “Now, they balance each other out. They are playful and loving.”



Sebastian “pupped” the question at the Lincoln Memorial in June 2016. Now the wedding is set for either this fall or next spring. Abril hopes to set up a wedding registry for the couple that will raise money for an animal welfare organization. 




For more on Sebastian and Luna’s adventures, head over to Instagram.   


 



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April 04, 2017 at 02:22AM

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from Kelsey Borresen

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Melissa Joan Hart And Ryan Reynolds Were *This* Close To Dating In The '90s

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Long before he was Deadpool or the proud Mr. Blake LivelyRyan Reynolds was a young actor cast as the bad boy love interest of Melissa Joan Hart in the 1996 TV movie “Sabrina The Teenage Witch.” 


Here he is tossing a volleyball to Sabrina while rocking some very ‘90s, very bouncy surfer hair:





Though their characters don’t end up together in the movie, there was apparently some real-life magic happening between Hart and Reynolds on set. 


“We were smitten and cute,” the 40-year-old actress said on Australia’s “Studio 10 talk show last week. “He was adorable. He was a really nice guy.”


The teenage romance wasn’t meant to be, though. 


“I had a boyfriend at the time,” she explained. “[He] probably would have been a great boyfriend. And I didn’t end up with the other guy, so maybe I should have taken a chance!”


“He wasn’t like, the Ryan Reynolds everybody knows these days,” she said. “You can see in the clip the crazy hair. He was sweet — he was very sweet.” 



Hart’s recent admission about Reynolds sounds a lot more tame than what she described to E! host Guiliana Rancic in 2014.


As the ‘90s TV queen told it then, the two shared a little makeout sesh after Reynolds bought her a Bulova watch on their last day of shooting.


“I chased him down, got in front of his car and just kissed him and then made out with him all night,” she said. “Then I had to call my boyfriend the next day and explain it.”


Then what happened? Clarissa, explain it all


“[Ryan] came to New York to visit me,” she said.“But I think he wanted something more but I decided I was going to stick with my boyfriend.”


Oh. Well, that was anticlimactic.  







Though Reynolds hasn’t commented on the on-set romance, his wife Blake Lively is apparently aware of the kiss. 


“She did know, actually,” Hart told People magazine when asked about it last year. “She reached out to me via email to help her with a birthday present for Ryan!”


Hm, maybe a Bulova watch?


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April 04, 2017 at 02:22AM

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from Brittany Wong

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Hundreds Of LGBTQ People Held A Dance Party Protest Outside Ivanka Trump's Home

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Roughly 200 LGBTQ and climate change activists came together on Saturday night for a dance party protest outside of Ivanka Trump’s house in Washington D.C.


WERK for Peace, a queer artist collective in Washington, D.C., organized the protest alongside 350 DC, Queer Resistance, and the Trans Women of Color Collective. The action served as a response to President Donald Trump’s recent executive order rolling back Obama-era climate policies and protections, as well as Ivanka Trump’s claims to be an LGBTQ ally while remaining actionless as her father’s administration continues to roll out anti-LGBTQ orders.


“Protesting at Ivanka Trump’s house was a way for the LGBTQ and Climate Justice communities to demand more than just words of support,” WERK for Peace organizer Firas Nasr told HuffPost. “While Ivanka Trump has painted herself as a ‘friend of the gays’ and ‘climate czar,’ she was radio silent in the face of blatant attacks on our climate and on the LGBTQ community last week. Thus, with songs like Hillary Duff’s ‘Come Clean,’ CupcakKe’s ‘LGBT,’ and Bell Biv DeVoe’s ‘Poison,’ we brought the resistance to her doorstep and cheered, ‘Ivanka Trump, Come Dance!’ We celebrated our earth and our bodies, and we hope that Ivanka will do the same by speaking out and acting in solidarity with the LGBTQ+ and Climate Justice communities.”


The protest began in Washington D.C.’s Dupont Circle neighborhood and continued to Ivanka Trump’s residence.


WERK for Peace has organized a number of other dance party protests since the election of Donald Trump, including events that took place outside of Vice President Mike Pence’s home and outside of Trump Hotel in Washington, D.C.


Check out some photos from the event below.


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April 04, 2017 at 02:22AM

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Theresa May hopes to set example of female potential in Saudi Arabia

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PM says her trip to Arab state can send message about female leadership but stops short of criticising its equal rights approach

Theresa May has said she hopes to send a message about women in leadership when she visits Saudi Arabia, but stopped short of overtly criticising the country’s approach to equal rights.

Speaking ahead of Tuesday’s second leg of her Gulf tour to boost post-Brexit trade ties in the region, the prime minister said she believed she would set an example as a female leader of a powerful government in a country where women are still barred from driving and must obtain permission from a male guardian to travel, marry or in some cases access healthcare.

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April 04, 2017 at 02:07AM

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from Jessica Elgot Political reporter

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Population ageing and decline ‘key focus’ as UN Commission opens 50th annual session

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The United Nations advisory body on issues related to population and development today kicked off its annual session, with a focus on changing population age structures and sustainable development.

April 04, 2017 at 02:04AM

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22 Truths About Introducing A Non-Asian S.O. To Traditional Asian Parents

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The stakes are always high when you introduce your parents to a new boyfriend or girlfriend ― but let’s be honest: The stakes are especially high when you’re introducing a non-Asian significant other to traditional Asian parents


Below, 22 things that are bound to happen before, during and after the big meeting.


1. Your S.O. will be grilled for the entire duration of the visit. 


2. You will be grilled about S.O. at length before the visit. 


3. Your parents might start bragging about your SAT scores and Mozart-level piano skills. What’s life without a little friendly competition, amiright?





4. They’ll tell your entrepreneurial bae that working at a startup is cool and all but it’s not law, medicine or engineering, is it?


5. Your parents will remind you of that smart, Yale graduate doctor your auntie has tried to set you up with since you were, like five. 


6. The event will induce panicking for a full week beforehand for all parties involved. 



Ian googled "meeting Asian parents" before he met my parents lol

— Rea (@jreax) November 24, 2016



7. You’ll feel compelled to butter your parents up beforehand by saying your S.O. is a “very serious and goal-oriented person.”


8. For bonus points ^^ you might mention their high school GPA.


9. You may have to remind your partner to take off their shoes when they enter the house ― next to the lineup of Reeboks, flip flops and assorted slippers by the door. 



@haileyd97 "EVERYONE TAKE OFF YOUR SHOES THIS IS AN ASIAN HOUSEHOLD"

— Sean (@sean_rimando) February 13, 2017



10. Your parents will not be impressed by his or her ~hobbies~. Sorry, but your boyfriend’s passion for podcasts is basically a non-starter.


11. Your S.O. will marvel at the stack of coupons on the counter. You’re thrifty, too, but your parents are next level. 


12. They’ll probably wear Asian b***hy resting face the whole time. 





13. As usual, they’ll talk about that one cousin who got into an Ivy League and continues to outdo you in every way possible. 


14. At some point, your boyfriend/girlfriend may ask why your mom is yelling, when in fact, she’s just talking. 


15. One thing’s for sure: Your S.O. is going to eat well tonight. From curry and dumplings, to bibimbap and amazing seafood, Asians know how to eat. 





16. When your parents give you an update on your aunties and uncles, you’ll have to explain to your partner that everyone you’ve known since birth is an auntie or uncle. That’s just how we do. 


17. Mom and dad will be mildly impressed if your S.O. can whip out some phrases in your native language. Keyword: Mildly. 





18. If you’re meeting at a restaurant and extended family is there, tell your partner to expect a major fight over who gets to pay the bill. It’s an honor and a privilege to pay, OK?


19. If you’re at home and your S.O. volunteers to do the dishes, they will learn that the dishwasher is, in fact, a drying rack. 



#GrowingUpAsian when your dishwasher isn't a dishwasher. It's actually a drying rack. http://pic.twitter.com/Hu4XOnD4g8

— kim-shady (@kimmmatron) July 16, 2015



20. They’ll refrain, but you’ll see in your parents’ eyes they want to ask hardball questions you may not have even discussed yet ― like how you’ll raise your kids.


21. They might ask beforehand if your new guy or girl does drugs. Awkward.


22. But eventually, your parents will come around and overfeed your S.O. ― just like they do you! 





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April 04, 2017 at 01:52AM

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from Brittany Wong

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Yes, You Have A Role To Play In Preventing Sexual Violence (In All Its Forms)

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Whether you have been an advocate for decades or have only recently been inspired by the powerful stories of survivors coming forward, in a society where sexual violence is normalized there are daily opportunities to interrupt rape culture. And while some forms of sexual violence — such as sexist jokes, catcalling or vulgar gestures — aren’t illegal, they are no less threatening or harmful to the person being victimized. These behaviors contribute to a culture that accepts sexual violence, and one we should not stand for.


In order to change the culture it’s important to acknowledge that not everyone knows what acts are defined as sexual assault. According to new research from the National Sexual Violence Research Center and YouGov, while there is a strong level of awareness among U.S. adults nationwide, men and young adults show lower levels of awareness across all categories of assault. For instance, 56 percent of men vs. 72 percent of women say “watching someone in a private act without their knowledge or permission” is assault, while 67 percent of men vs. 79 percent of women say “sexual intercourse where one of the partners is pressured to give their consent” is assault. Awareness of verbal harassment is particularly low among men and younger adults: less than half view it as assault (48 percent of men and 46 percent of 18-34 year olds).



In order to change the culture it’s important to acknowledge that not everyone knows what acts are defined as sexual assault.



This data underscores the importance of finding ways to engage new voices in the sexual violence prevention effort to ensure as many individuals and subsets of our communities as possible are working to end this widespread problem in our society.


April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month, a time to come together and boost awareness about sexual violence and educate communities on how to prevent it. This year, our theme, “Engaging New Voices”, is about encouraging and informing a wider audience on how to take action to promote safety, respect and equality in their communities.


What does it mean for you?


· If you’re a coach: Teach your athletes that derogatory jokes, while seemingly harmless, create environments that support disrespect and, in some cases, promote violence.


· If you’re a faith leader: Be prepared to address sexual violence in your congregation. Believe survivors when they share their stories with you. Assure them it wasn’t their fault, no matter the circumstances.


· If you’re a member of a Greek community: Educate members about what enthusiastic, affirmative consent looks like, and step in and speak up when you hear rape jokes, see sexual harassment, or observe situations where consent hasn’t been or cannot be given.


· If you’re a parent: Respect your child’s right to make choices about their body, and encourage them to respect the choices of others.


· If you’re a new voice to sexual violence prevention: Welcome! Call out sexist jokes, catcalling, and other actions that contribute to a broader climate in which sexual violence is tolerated and not taken seriously. Bystander intervention, or intervening before, during or after a situation when they see or hear behaviors that promote sexual violence is one of the simplest, most effective ways for people to play a role. One study found that schools using the Green Dot training program saw victimization rates 12 percent lower than schools that did not. Another found that fraternity men trained in bystander intervention were 40 percent less likely to commit sexual violence.


Everyone has a role to play in changing the culture to prevent sexual violence. So get involved. Speak up. Wear jeans on April 26. Join a day of action. Believe and support survivors. Model healthy behavior. And spread the word. Together we can make an impact and end sexual violence ― in all of its forms ― once and for all.


This post is part of a series produced by The Huffington Post and the National Sexual Violence Resource Center in conjunction with Sexual Assault Awareness Month. To learn more about the NSVRC and how you can help prevent sexual violence, visit here. Read all posts in the series here.


Need help? Visit RAINN’s National Sexual Assault Online Hotline or the National Sexual Violence Resource Center’s website.

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April 04, 2017 at 01:52AM

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from Laura Palumbo

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Here Are All The Thoughts You Have During Each Year Of Your 20s

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This post was originally published on Forever Twenty Somethings by Samantha Matt.


Progressing through your twenties is fun, until you get to your late twenties and realize it’s almost over. Basically, once you get passed the fun stuff, things get kind of serious, and you realize that your former fun self really screwed over your older, semi-responsible self because you’re now poor and unable to adult even though society is forcing you to.


That’s the dictionary definition of your twenties.


No, I’m kidding, but really. Adulting is hard at any age within your twenties. Even age 20! Lol. 


Here are the stressful thoughts you have at each year of your twenties. 


20


Ugh, how am I not 21 yet? Can this year just end already? I am sick of using a fake ID. I just want to be 21 and be able to buy booze legally. I want to be able to show a bouncer my ID without fiercely shaking on the inside. I am 20 years old!!! I’m not young anymore!!! THIS AGE SUCKS AND IS SO ANNOYING. I HATE IT. I can’t wait to be 21 and then eventually to be 29 and married and totally have my shit together! JUST KIDDING, 29 IS SO OLD. LOLOLOLOL.


21


WOOOOOOOO 21!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LET’S GO OUT TO THE BAR. LET’S GO OUT TO THE CLUB. LET’S GET FUCKED UP. LET’S DO ALL THREE OF THOSE THINGS EVERY WEDNESDAY THROUGH SUNDAY. YAAAAAAA.


22


I guess 22 is still young, but I’m not the youngest person at the bar anymore so that sucks. Whatever. Let’s drink.


23


Wow, now I’m really not the youngest person at the bar anymore. I’m starting to feel kind of old. And tired! The real world is so tiring! Wow, I need a drink. I’m going to black out so hard tonight. I just need to decide where to go tonight, but I have this whole night life thing down so it won’t be hard. I am basically a going out professional.


24


I am getting so bored of all these bars. I feel like I’ve been going to the same places over and over again for the past couple of years. And now everyone that frequents these places is 21… Like three years younger than me 21. I used to rule these places. Now I feel old there. But I’m not old. I’m still in my early 20s. Or am I in my mid-20s? Whatever. Let’s day drink.


25


Ugh. I am officially in the middle of my 20s. Like the legit middle. When did this happen? When did I get this old? How did I used to go out both nights every weekend? Ugh work is so busy. I just want to sleep. But I’m not going to be young for that much longer so I should totally go out tonight. But ugh I just want to sit on the couch. And where would I even go? Where do 25-year-olds go out? I’m going to need a red bull vodka to stay awake tonight. I AM SO OLD. And everyone here is so young. Help.


26


Why doesn’t anyone want to go out like we used to anymore? And why is no one ever around? I have to make plans 16 years in advance to see people, and we only make plans now for a reason – like if it’s someone’s birthday. Everyone sucks, but I guess I prefer the couch, yoga pants and wine so it’s fine. I also don’t have clothes to wear “out” anymore anyway. And what is with all these weddings coming up? How do you even attend a wedding? How do you be in a wedding? Should I be thinking about getting married too? Or maybe I should just try saving some money for once in my life. UGH, RESPONSIBILITY. IT’S HAPPENING.


27


I am so over going out. But I’m supposed to go out this weekend. Ugh, I should cancel. I am trying to lose weight and not spend money because I’m broke and feel like I should have money in savings because I’m, like, 27. I guess going out to dinner and drinks one night won’t hurt. I love how I consider “going out” going to dinner now and when I was 23, I considered “going out” getting black out drunk and passing out somewhere unfamiliar. My drink of choice was also vodka and now it’s wine. Times have changed. How did I go out so much back then? I get tired just thinking about it. Wow, I love the couch. But adulting still sucks. At least I’m not 28 yet.


28


How did this happen? How did I get here? I feel the same as I did at 27 except there are more weddings draining my bank account and I know people who are having kids. Should I look into freezing my eggs? I am pretty much done with my 20s. Does that make me a real adult? Because I still don’t have enough money to buy a house or start a family or do anything cool anymore. Also, can I still go out and party? I joked that I was too old for that shit at 26 and 27, but now I might actually be too old. I guess it’s not like anyone would actually be down to go out like old times with me anyway… or would they?


29


Help me, I’m about to turn 30 and I still cannot afford my lifestyle… or your wedding... and I definitely do not have my shit together. I swear just yesterday I was 26. How did time go by this quickly?! At least I’m not 21 anymore. That was an insane time period. I would NEVER want to be 21 again. I’m gonna pour myself a wine and reflect on the past 10 years and then maybe meet my friends at a bar because we actually know where to go out now without feeling ancient. But I’ll stay in if I don’t feel like leaving my house because it’s my life and I do what I want. Ya feel?


Forever Twenty Somethings is an online magazine helping people navigate their 20s and beyond. Follow them on Twitter at @forever20tweets and author Samantha at @SamanthaMatt1.

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April 04, 2017 at 01:52AM

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This 3-Year-Old With Cerebral Palsy Is Spreading Awareness In Style

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Instagram is our go-to destination for outfit inspiration. And our new favorite account, starring an adorable, 3-year-old fashionista with cerebral palsy, has us feeling beyond inspired.  




Christina Smallwood and her daughter Finley of “Fifi & Mo” document their enviable mommy-and-me style alongside stories about Finley’s milestones.


Finley has spastic diplegia cerebral palsy, which causes “especially high and constant ‘tightness’ and ‘stiffness’ in the muscles of the lower extremities of the human body,” Smallwood says on her website. Finley uses a walker, and recently underwent a costly surgery to reduce spasticity and help her walk. 




Smallwood told The Huffington Post she originally started her blog, fifiandmo.com, because she felt isolated as a new special needs mom. Her mission has since blossomed into an opportunity to spread awareness, connect with families that have similar stories and raise funds to alleviate the costs associated with Finley’s therapies and surgeries. Smallwood predicts on her website that Finley will need “dozens” of surgeries before she turns 15. 




Finley and her mom are often photographed in adorable T-shirt outfits, and it’s no coincidence: partnering with small shops that make shirts is one way they’ve built their audience to nearly 60,000 Instagram followers. The brands share images of Smallwood and Finley wearing their shirts, often prompting other mothers reach out to Smallwood to share their stories.


“They would DM me and say ‘My kid has a walker, too,’” she said. “So it became a great passion for me to get our pictures shared, and it worked amazingly.” 




These two are spreading awareness, boosting small businesses, and doing it all in style. But while Smallwood told The Huffington Post they love wearing mommy-and-me T-shirts, Finley’s favorite outfit is “either pajamas, or anything with a tutu!”


Same, Finley. Same. 


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April 04, 2017 at 01:21AM

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from Jamie Feldman

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This College Is Exploring Beyoncé And Black Womanhood With "Lemonade Week"

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Beyoncé’s “Lemonade” is still serving lessons in black womanhood.


That’s why James Arnett, an English professor at the University of Tennessee at Chattanooga, is dubbing the week of April 3 “Lemonade Week” at the college. From Monday to Thursday, the university will host daily events to discuss the topics explored on the visual album, such as the “lives, loves and pain of black women.” The event will also use Candice Benbow’s “Lemonade: The Syllabus” to guide discussions.


Arnett told The Huffington Post that inspiration for the week came after he and a colleague hosted a lunch discussion on the visuals and lyrics in “Formation.” The room was packed during the lunch and Arnett decided to take it a step further.


Even a year after its release, Arnett believes “Lemonade” is still relevant. 


“Thinking back on 2016, it was the text that felt, and still feels, like a rebuttal to the politics that were evolving,” he said. “The Super Bowl performance was a lightning rod and Rorschach test for the political horizon. Besides, it’s just a great piece of art ― beautiful music and evolution from Beyoncé as an artist, showing new range and affect, and showing her off in her best collaborative moments.”


“Lemonade Week” events will feature professors analyzing the different areas of feminism and womanism, performances by a drag queen, English and theater students showing off their work, a reader’s salon to celebrate black women writers and a “Formation” choreography lesson.


All events are free, except Thursday’s dance class, and open to the public.


“The week takes its time to celebrate Beyoncé and other groundbreaking black women,” Arnett said. “All in all, I think we were responding to the zeitgeist and trying to meet our students with thoughtful, intellectual content where they already enjoy themselves.”


Beyoncé’s latest visual album earned its way into college curriculum before. In September, University of Texas at San Antonio began offering a class on “Lemonade.”


View the full list of “Lemonade Week” events here.

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April 04, 2017 at 12:21AM

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from Taryn Finley

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Mandy Moore Is Standing Up For Her Right To Do All The Dumb Things Men Do

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It’s more important than ever to speak up for women’s rights in the current political climate. Women should be able to do anything that men can do ― that includes being a garbage person ― and Mandy Moore came ready with a very specific list of things in this Funny or Die video made in partnership with the ACLU.




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April 04, 2017 at 12:21AM

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from Andy McDonald

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Monday, April 3, 2017

I Ended Up Marrying My Sorority Sister

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Married couple Laura Leigh and Sam Abby found love in a very unexpected place: their boy-crazy sorority at Emerson College in Boston. 


In the video above from The Scene, the couple (new moms of a four-month-old boy!) share how being paired as big and little sisters in the group eventually led to something more. 


“They put us together and I was like, ‘OK we’re going to be close, I’m going to make her love me!’” Laura recalls. “And she she just didn’t care and I couldn’t make her care and it drove me me nuts.”


Apparently, Sam was playing it cool because she was crushing on Laura, too.


Eventually the new couple clued in their fellow sorority sisters on everything, but it took some time.


“When I started having feelings for Sam, I didn’t tell the any of the others girls,” Laura says. “It took some time just because it was something I was trying to figure out on my own ― I was really hard on myself at the time.” 


In the end, no one had an issue with it, and today, Laura and Sam are happily married and living in New York with their adorable four-month-old son, Quinn: 




Watch the video above for more of the couple’s sweet love story. 


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April 03, 2017 at 11:50PM

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from Brittany Wong

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You Can Now Be Older Than 27 To Audition For ‘America’s Next Top Model’

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Tyra Banks has given fans of all ages a reason to smize.


On Saturday, the supermodel-turned-mogul announced via Twitter that after 23 cycles of “America’s Next Top Model,” she is getting rid of age limits for the upcoming iteration.


“There have been 23 cycles of America’s Next Top Model, and every single cycle we say you have to be 27 years old or younger,” Banks said in a video message. “You know what I hear all the time? ‘Tyra, come on! Why have an age limit?’ So, you know what? I’m taking that age limit off. You want to audition for ‘America’s Next Top Model’? I don’t care how old you are, honey.”



Apply Now!!!#michellemockcasting
Send 3 pics,Name,Age,stats + Contact Info to
VH1TopModel@gmail.com. U.S. Citizens http://pic.twitter.com/A7lUJ7rVv4

— Tyra Banks (@tyrabanks) April 1, 2017



Fans reacted positively on Twitter:



@tyrabanks Love that change!!

— Perez (@ThePerezHilton) April 2, 2017




@tyrabanks 41 and fabulous here !

— Michelle Lynn (@fancimimi) April 1, 2017





Banks does, however, still has a few requirements for potential contestants: “You just need to know how to smize and be open to learning how to work the runway like a supermodel.”


So, when it comes to ageism in the modeling industry, we now firmly know where Banks stands.







Word.

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April 03, 2017 at 11:19PM

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from Elyse Wanshel

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Elizabeth Warren-Backed Candidate Looks To Unseat GOP Congresswoman In California

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A consumer advocate backed by Sens. Elizabeth Warren (D-Mass.) and Kamala Harris (D-Calif.) will challenge a Republican congresswoman in next year’s election.


Katie Porter, an attorney who teaches consumer law at the University of California, Irvine and is the author of several studies on the subprime loan crisis, announced Monday she will run against Rep. Mimi Walters (R-Calif.) in 2018.


“As a consumer advocate, I’ve spent my career fighting Wall Street banks who cheat consumers and families,” Porter said in a statement announcing her candidacy. “Now, I’m running for Congress to take that fight to Washington. I’ll take on Donald Trump and the powerful Washington special interests who control Congress.”


Walters represents a portion of Orange County, one of the GOP’s strongholds in largely blue California. Democratic operatives have eyed the area as ripe for House seat pick-ups since the region sided with Hillary Clinton in the 2016 election — the first time the county voted for a Democratic candidate since 1936 ― and are looking to attract voters who are displeased with President Donald Trump and lawmakers who back his legislative priorities.


Porter’s team has already employed that strategy, pointing to a FiveThirtyEight analysis showing Walters voting in line with Trump’s agenda 100 percent of the time.



Porter’s campaign is also emphasizing her support from Warren and Harris, two progressive favorites and outspoken critics of the president. 


Warren, who was Porter’s professor at Harvard Law School, described the attorney as a “fighter.”


“She’s been in the trenches with me fighting for families for nearly two decades — and she’s gotten real results,” Warren said in a statement. “She’s fought relentlessly for important protections that safeguard consumers and force banks to give families a fair shake. There’s no one I trust more to take on Donald Trump and the entrenched special interests in Washington on behalf of working families.”


Harris also has longstanding ties with Porter: As California attorney general, Harris appointed Porter in 2012 to oversee the $25 billion mortgage settlement by Wall Street banks.  


“Katie has spent her career battling powerful Wall Street banks who take advantage of consumers and families,” Harris said in a statement. “She will be just as relentless in Congress fighting against the powerful Washington special interests on behalf of our families.”


Walters has served in the House since 2015. She was re-elected in November with 58.6 percent of the vote. 

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April 03, 2017 at 11:19PM

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from Mollie Reilly

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The Next 'Big Little Lies' Mystery To Crack: Whether There Will Be A Season 2

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Now that we’re done swapping theories about who murdered whom on “Big Little Lies,” a new mystery has emerged: Will there be a second season?


As of last week, the fate of HBO’s Monterey moms seemed promising. Reese Witherspoon and Laura Dern said they’ve been discussing further storylines with Liane Moriarty, who wrote the novel on which the first season is based. But in a Hollywood Reporter interview published Sunday, director Jean-Marc Vallée said he’s not interested.


“The detective doesn’t want to let go and that’s how we finish that,” Vallée said, referring to the finale’s final shot. “And we think, ‘Did they do the right thing? What will happen?’ Now it’s up to the audience and their imagination to figure out. To do a season two, I’m not for it. Let’s move on and do something else! If there’s an opportunity to reunite with Reese, Nicole and these characters of course, I’ll be a part of it, but ‘Big Little Lies One’ is a one-time deal. ‘Big Little Lies Two’? Nah. The end is for the audience to talk about. Imagine what you want to imagine and that’s it. We won’t give you a season two because it’s so good like this. Why spoil it?”



Vallée makes a good point, which he reiterated in a Vulture interview: “There’s no reason to make a season two. That was meant to be a one-time deal.” The show ended on a high note ― why drag it on, other than to see the remarkable cast reconvene? On the other hand, the follow-up storylines would be fresh, even to those who’ve read the book, and it would be nice to see where these ladies land after “Kumbaya”-ing on the beach. 


“You want to give your audience a sense of closure,” writer David E. Kelley said in HBO’s official “Inside the Episode” video. “And at the same time, life doesn’t serve up closure very often. And in that scene, we were endeavoring to show that the women had come together, that the story is not over. So shifting to the point of view of the detective on the beach indicates just that. There is some closure, but you only get so much of that in life. The story always goes on.”


In an interview with TVLine, Nicole Kidman seemed skeptical that another go-round would come to fruition, though she did call it a “beautiful prospect.”


Across all of HBO’s platforms, “Big Little Lies” averaged 7 million viewers per episode, a significant sum. The Huffington Post reached out to the show’s rep about the possibility of another season, but we did not immediately hear back. 

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April 03, 2017 at 10:49PM

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from Matthew Jacobs

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Michelle Obama Is Rocking Her Natural Hair And The Internet Can't Even

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The gates of heaven opened and Michelle Obama popped up on timelines in rare form on Sunday night.


Twitter user @meagnacarta shared a photo of Obama rocking her natural hair in a low puff and gray polka dot headband, presumably wearing the purest grade of shea butter. 



This is the picuture I have been waiting on for like 3 years. COME ON NATURAL. http://pic.twitter.com/HF8AYpsciB

— gif sommelier (@meagnacarta) April 2, 2017



It’s not confirmed exactly where the former first lady is or when the photo was taken ― though Barack Obama is currently writing his memoir in the French Polynesian islands ― but that didn’t stop Twitter from having a damn fit. Many social media users noted that they’ve been waiting for this natural hair moment for the longest. Others reveled in the glow of Obama’s melanin. 



@meagnacarta @LadyCurtissa I remember wishing w all my heart, FLOTUS would walk out with her fro out

— Dellea Copeland (@delleacopeland) April 3, 2017




@meagnacarta She's living life and I'm all the way for it lol. http://pic.twitter.com/s2mQr1sgiH

— IThinkOverThere (@AdwoaOA) April 3, 2017




@MichelleObama all #Natural. Pure. Beauty. #Obama https://t.co/sijbx1p5mg

— Guinéelle Mav (@GuineelleMav) April 3, 2017




@meagnacarta @plantbasedvibes Her skin too. Omg.

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— PussyPoppinPriestess (@RegularBlack_) April 3, 2017



Sentiments were reminiscent of when Obama was spotted on vacation with her husband rocking the cutest braids shortly after the 2017 inauguration. 



Obama's on vacation with the hat backwards. He's never coming back. http://pic.twitter.com/RUakcwwgtT

— Philip Lewis (@Phil_Lewis_) February 1, 2017



In a 2015 interview with The Root, Obama’s hair stylist Johnny Wright said Obama has been natural for several years. He said if Obama did abandon a fresh press for her ‘fro, it would possibly be during vacation.


Obama has kept a busy and relatively low-profile life since leaving the White House in January. She’s made a couple of surprise visits to students at Washington, D.C. schools, signed a major book deal with Penguin Randomhouse and just living life enjoying museums, restaurants and SoulCycle.


Live your best life, Michelle.






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April 03, 2017 at 10:49PM

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from Taryn Finley

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The Stunning Finale Of 'Big Little Lies' Is What Happens When Women Drive Art

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The last 15 minutes of the finale of “Big Little Lies” contains very few words. We find out the answers to three long-unanswered questions through images: Who was murdered? Who killed that person? And who is the man who brutally assaulted Jane Chapman and fathered her son, Ziggy?


That third question ends up being the most salient one. And the scene that gives us its answer epitomizes what is so stunning about the HBO mini-series: At its core, “Big Little Lies” is about the deep, complex and protective connections that can form between women in the face of buried trauma.  


A testament both to the direction by Jean Marc-Vallée and the stellar acting by Reese Witherspoon as Madeline, Nicole Kidman as Celeste, and Shailene Woodley as Jane, in the finale’s climactic scene, words become unnecessary.


As Jane realizes that the man who has been tormenting her thoughts for six years is Celeste’s outwardly charming and inwardly abusive husband Perry, we see this realization be passed along through a grip and two looks ― first to Madeline and then to Celeste. Women who spend time together and form an intimacy often develop the ability to silently communicate warnings ― something I have never before seen expressed so pointedly on television.


As the New Yorker’s Jia Tolentino put it: “The show understands that minor social transactions between women can express the nuances of violence with a unique specificity and a nauseating subtlety.” 





The searing portrayal of these sort of “minor social transactions between women” ― in the context of violence and outside of it ― are what make “Big Little Lies” so affecting. We see them play out in many varying configurations over the course of the seven episodes: between Madeline and her daughter, between Celeste and her therapist (Robin Weigart), between Renata (a fantastic Laura Dern) and Jane, between Renata and Celeste, between Bonnie (Zoe Kravitz) and Madeline, and between Jane, Madeline and Celeste.


“Big Little Lies” artfully digs into the systemic pressures women face ― to be perfect parents, perfect wives and perfect models of femininity ― even when they are white and wealthy with the best beachfront properties California has to offer. The show easily passes the Bechdel test as we watch these women discuss parenting, sexual fulfillment (or a lack thereof), professional fulfillment (or a lack thereof), sexual assault, therapy and the deep well of unhappiness that often lurks underneath a veneer of “perfection.”


Although the show was directed by Marc-Vallée and written by David E. Kelley, the depth of female interaction present in “Big Little Lies” makes it unsurprising that the original novel was written by a woman, and that the project got off the ground thanks to Reese Witherspoon and Nicole Kidman’s respective production companies. (Witherspoon and her producing partner originally optioned Liane Moriarty’s novel, and then brought Kidman on board.) This is especially important given that the directors, showrunners and producers of both TV series and movies remain overwhelmingly white and male. 


“For 25 years, I’ve been the only woman on set,” Witherspoon told The Hollywood Reporter back in January, when talking about what drew her to “Big Little Lies.” “So I had no one to talk to... We have to start seeing women how they actually are on film ― we need to see real women’s experience ― whether that involves domestic violence, sexual assault, romance, infidelity or divorce. We as human beings learn from art.”



This show didn’t necessarily speak to all men, judging from the tepid and misguided reviews written by some male critics.


Mike Hale at the New York Times called the female-driven storylines at the center of “Big Little Lies” unoriginal and “just a compendium of clichés,” even comparing the nuanced portrayal of an abusive relationship between Kidman’s Celeste and Alexander Skarsgard’s Perry to “’Fifty Shades’ territory.” The New York Post’s Robert Rorke, who also flippantly referred to the abusive relationship as “S&M games,” called the show “a terrible whodunnit” about “rich white women and their erotic fantasies and emotional dissatisfactions.”


Both Hale and Rorke appeared frustrated that they were sold a murder mystery, and then ended up having to listen to women talk about their lives, desires and feelings. This frustration, while easy to skewer, also reflects a depressing truth. Because the stories of white men still tend to appear in pop culture most often and with greater nuance, women and people of color learn to find some piece of themselves in cultural products that are not about them. White men are not faced with that same imperative.


Luckily, the buy-in of curmudgeonly white men who don’t see value in unpacking women’s stories is no longer necessary for a series to be a critical or ratings hit.


In the final moments of “Big Little Lies,” we see our five female leads together on the beach, at last standing in solidarity and connected by a shared trauma. Sometimes, on TV as in life, women are enough to carry each other through. 





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April 03, 2017 at 10:49PM

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from Emma Gray

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